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When I lost Carter, I had a terrifying thought: I have no way to show the world that I am a mother too. I was seeing all of these social media posts of women having beautiful, healthy babies and all I could think was “I want to be like them.” I wanted to be able to post goofy pictures of my baby girl swaddled up like a burrito, and talk about the joys and struggles of motherhood. Sadly, that wasn’t an option for me but I had so much motherly love and pride in my girl. It felt like those emotions were locked away and that somehow I was supposed to go back to living life as a woman who was not a mother. It took the love and support of many for me to fully accept and come to peace with the tragedy of losing Carter. However, the feeling of being a mother never faded. That’s when I realized...I am still a mother. There is no word or phrase coined for those like me, who have suffered the loss of their precious baby. Nothing that I can say to people to make them instantly understand what I have endured. Picture this, a person tells you that they are a widow(er). You immediately understand that this individual has suffered a terrible loss of their spouse. No word like this exists for parents like me. We suffer in silence, longing to connect, wishing to tell people about our baby angels that watch over us forever. So, I am putting an end to that suffering. I’m coining my own phrase. I am proud to be a mother, and I want the world to know. I am “still mom.” 

Through this organization we hope to bring awareness to the sad reality of miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. We want to change the perception that society has built that you shouldn’t talk about these tragedies, or that you should be expected to carry on as though nothing happened or as though you aren’t a parent as well. This is about more than loss and sadness, this organization is about bringing recognition to those who are still parents even when society has tried to tell them otherwise.

Our Mission

Breaking the stigma around miscarriage, pregnancy, and child loss while building a society of support and recognition to those who are still parents.